Entering a new year I – as so many others – have decided to make some changes in my life. Some of them because they are plain and simple necessary for me to reach a point where I have a minimum of stress, which will also have a positive influence on my daughter, and some of the changes to make room for me, myself and I…
And just a few days into this new year, I was confirmed that my decision was necessary and should have high priority!
I have always been proud of being the one person a lot of you come to when you need to talk about things in your life that have either bothered you or made you happy. But unfortunately sometimes this has been abused, and for once I just reach a point where one specific friend pushed me over the top. Not that I dislike this person or in any way want the friendship to end, but sometimes it is necessary to take a few steps back and look at a relationship and alter it a little. And so I did!
I for one should know how difficult it can be to change your behaviour in certain situations, and I would be the last person to say, that my ways of adapting to situations and ways of behaviour are perfect, but I believe I’ve learned quite a few lessons underway and thus know that it is possible to reach a point where you can actually say that you changed some of your behaviour. But hearing the same story over and over again, and realizing that this person will not change the behaviour as things are now, made me decide that this is where it stops. I’m still here as a friend, but I will not use a lot of my hard earned energy on it any more.
As a grown up person you will always be responsible for your own actions, and being the person I am, I might have been a little too honest in my way of communicating that this is it, but I also believe that it was necessary to make sure my point was understood. I’m still not sure if it was completely taken in or if I’m momentarily black-listed as a close confidant, but to my strongest belief I still think I did the right thing.
This is a person with so much potential, and I just wish for this person to be able to look inside and see what is really there, understand how much self-confidence it should give, and to believe that everyone around see the same. What I see now is someone seeking so much attention and confirmation that it ends up pushing everyone away – to have to keep telling someone how good they look, how great they are, how nice a person they are is just not working on an on-going basis.
It took me many years to reach a point where I believe I have something to give to my surroundings, but today I believe that I’m a good friend and treat people around me with respect. And it is simply what I wish for this person – to believe in yourself and have a self-confidence so strong that any attention you get is merely a positive extra and not something you need on a daily basis.
I am very happy to be where I am, and still I know that I have much to learn and develop in me, but I know it will come in time. I have set up a few goals for myself on the “look into yourself” issue and I intend to do something about it. I hope you do that too, listening to what you find inside and acting on issues that might help you develop as a person.
Wishing you a Happy New year I also wish that you find joy and happiness in your life – you can never get enough
I send you L-O-V-E!!